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How to become a gentleman

It is often said (mostly by women) that the number of
gentlemen in the society is fast depleting. In times past, a
gentleman was much appreciated and being gentlemanly
was a noble thing.
However, things have changed in today's society; some for
the better and some for the worse. Yet, guys need to
remember that some basic good manners will go a long way
in helping them in their ascent to the top.
GENERAL ETIQUETTE
• Always be polite: Even if you don't like someone, there is
no need to lower yourself to their level. Be polite and
courteous; show that you're the better man.
• Do not curse: Swearing is a big no-no. It shows that you
don't have the vocabulary to express your thoughts
appropriately. Furthermore, it is always very crude and
impolite to be vulgar.
• Do not speak loudly: When you speak loudly, it raises the
stress level among company. It always implies that you
can't reason with people and rely on "brute force" to get
your point across. It also draws attention -- negative
attention.
• Do not lose your temper: When you lose your temper, you are showing everyone that you can't control your
emotions. If you can't even control yourself, then how can you possibly control anything else? Keep your cool at all
times (it won't be easy but it is worth the effort) and people will take positive note of your levelheadedness.
• Do not stare: Ogling at someone is the equivalent of psychological aggression. You don't want to intimidate people
for no reason.
• Do not interrupt: Let people finish what they are saying before adding your comments. Interrupting others is a sign
of poor etiquette and a lack of social skills. If you want to come across as egotistical, you can do so by constantly
interrupting.
• Do not spit: A lot of men do this almost subconsciously. Spitting is very crude and not too pretty to look at. Do not
spit in public unless you want to look like you were raised in a sewer.
• Do not laugh at others' mistakes: This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last
thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that.
• Wait for seating before eating: When sitting down for a meal, you should wait until all the guests are properly seated
and ready to commence the meal before eating. Everyone should start dining at the same time; this is a subtle but
very important rule.
ON CHIVALRY
In addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady.
Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to
come.
• Always open doors: This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to
follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or any place with a
door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
• Help with her seat: If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by
When at a social event, make sure that you
ask the lady if she wants something to drink
pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course. And if a lady arrives
and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
• Give her your arm: When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm.
This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if the lady with you is
wearing high heels.
• Ask if she needs anything: This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman all the same.
When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink. Show her that you care about
her comfort and needs.
* Swearing shows that you don't have the vocabulary to express your thoughts appropriately. Furthermore, it is
always very crude and impolite to be vulgar